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What Your Wedding Guests {Really} Care About

You want your wedding to be perfect.

There’s a reason why wedding planning can be stressful to so many people. Well, more like to 99.9% of brides. When it comes to your wedding day, you plan well to make everything perfect. You want to have THE best wedding of the season (and really of all time) among your friend group. Let’s face it, there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s just the way that we were wired as humans. But, it’s more important not to forget what truly matters during this process. It’s not about the show. But rather, you’re getting married to the one whom your soul loves more than anything.

Let me tell you what I tell all my brides. Just like everyone in the world, every wedding is beautiful. Why? Solely because of what a wedding is about. It’s the union of two loving souls who are making a promise to God and each other in front of their family and friends about the rest of their lives. That’s a beautiful thing. It’s not about having the perfect centerpieces or the best wedding favors. Even if you wore a brown paper bag on your wedding day, it would be beautiful because of what your day is about. (Although, I don’t really recommend the brown paper bag look on anyone…)

Wedding planning is not a prescription for stress.

I also tell my brides that wedding planning is not a prescription for stress. Despite what you may think, your guests aren’t going to be looking at your wedding with a magnifying glass to see if they can find any hiccups. Usually the brides are the only ones who know if something doesn’t go as planned on their big day. You and maybe a few others like your wedding planner are the only ones who know what your vision was for how it was suppose to go. Although it’s never ideal to have something not go as you want on your wedding day, it’s important to realize that sometimes things happen – and some times that something is out of your control.

If your wedding day requires a Plan B, it’s best to roll with it, make the best of the situation, and enjoy your big day. Getting upset only takes away from the happiness that you could be having from what about that day truly matters – getting married to the one you promise to tolerate for the rest of your life! No one will sit there and say “I bet she was suppose to do her toasts at this time but the band pushed it back…” or “She should have chosen __ color linens with __ chargers under the china to create a better table scape.”

In all honesty, there are a number of things that guests pay far less attention to than you think they do. 

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So what do guests really care about (and won’t stop talking about after-the-fact) when it comes to attending a wedding? 

The Ceremony

I mean, obviously. That’s why they’re hopefully attending your wedding in the first place! There’s nothing that tugs on those heart strings more than a good love story. (Hello, The Notebook!) Unfortunately, however, the attention span of today’s society is getting smaller and smaller, so one of the most common complaints wedding guests have is when they get restless sitting through a long, drawn-out ceremony.  Every ceremony is different when it comes to it’s length due to religious customs or traditions, but a ceremony of about 30 minutes or less is often preferred among wedding guests.

The Food

You know when your grandma always told you that the way to a man’s heart is through their stomach? Well, the same is true when it comes to your wedding guests! A fantastic meal will really set the tone and the mood of your guests for the rest of the reception. Not to mention, it will give them the fuel they need to take over the dance floor! Offer a variety of options that are both delicious and serve as general crowd pleasers.

Also, don’t be afraid to make the food personal. At my own wedding, one of the many options was chicken and green beans because that was the first meal I cooked for my husband when we were dating. Needless to say, I was trying to impress him with my wifey skills with the best meal I knew how to make. (Which wasn’t much at the time – Ha!) It was a story our families and friends were familiar with, so it made comedic sense to be an option on our menu.

The Drinks

Weddings and alcohol seem to go together like.. well, chicken and green beans!

Let’s get something straight here too. There’s nothing that weddings guests hate more than a cash bar. And, don’t get me started on the alcohol running out! With that being said, you don’t have to have a fully stocked bar at your wedding if you’re wanting to save some money. Having a limited menu of champagne, beer, wine, and maybe a specialty cocktail that you both love is more than enough to keep your guests in high spirits for the night.

The Music

The music and the dancing is one of the biggest things that your guests will remember from your wedding. Your DJ can make or break a reception. This is why I can’t stress enough for couples to invest in a quality entertainment provider. Don’t believe me? Take a trip to Youtube and search Worst Wedding DJ Ever.

Whether you want to believe it or not, the dance floor has a way of setting the tone of your reception. An empty dance floor has your guests still and bored, but a dance floor packed with dancing and singing people will have your guests remembering how great of a ‘party’ your reception was. With that being said, the best way to get your guests moving and shaking what their momma gave them as they lose their voices from singing at the top of their lungs is choosing those crowd favorites that everyone knows and loves. (and also having an amazing DJ that can read a dance floor!)

The Venue

Now, when I mention the venue I mean in the most obvious sense. Are you having an outdoor wedding in the dead of summer in the Texas heat or in the chilly months up north? Or is the A/C in your indoor venue not keeping up, and your reception hall is 85 degrees? Mostly, when it comes to your venue, your guests are going to be selfish and thinking of themselves. Providing a venue that is both unique and can make your guests comfortable will allow your guests (and you – you have to be there in those conditions too!) to stay longer, have a better time, and remember the experience as a positive one. Having a unique wedding venue will also keep your wedding guests talking after-the-fact!

 

Like I’ve said before, your wedding planning is not a prescription for stress. When you find yourself stressed or upset over the smaller details: take a step back, take a breath, and refocus your energy on what truly matters to you. (and your guests if you care what they think!) In the end, regardless of how the day goes, you’ll be married! and THAT is what is the most important!

June 20, 2017

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Comments

  1. Theresa Bailey says

    June 23, 2017 at 1:10 am

    It’s so true! You stress over all these little details and later realize nobody pays that much attention. Well, unless you’re in the industry like us 😉

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    • cathynugentweddings says

      July 20, 2017 at 1:53 pm

      Right! 😉 When I find my brides stressed over the smaller details, I always make them look at their priorities for the day. Guests will not be going over your design with a fine tooth comb. 😛

      Reply
  2. Glenny says

    July 20, 2017 at 4:09 pm

    Ah good tips!! These are the top things I actually did think about to make sure my guests are going to be loving for my wedding later down the road. I too was considering making the food more personal! Since we’re both living in 2 different countries I was gonna do a poutine & Carne Asada Fries Bar (Canada & California) at like 10-11pm for the late munchies after dinner,drinks and dancing!!

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    • cathynugentweddings says

      July 20, 2017 at 8:28 pm

      Oh my goodness! Poutine and Carne Asada Fries Bar sounds like HEAVEN! I think late night reception ‘drunchies’ (HA! Drunk munchies!) are one of the most loved things among guests! Everyone loves a little salt when they’ve been drinking and having a good time. 😉

      Reply
  3. Meg says

    July 20, 2017 at 9:10 pm

    I agree that food and music are key make or break of a good wedding! Also I personally think keeping the speeches short – we have been to a few weddings and the best are when they speeches are short and simple, not long and drawn out!

    Reply
    • cathynugentweddings says

      July 24, 2017 at 11:32 am

      Meg, I’m so glad that you agree about the food and music! I know what you mean about long drawn out speeches. I just view it as the parents having their one shining moment in the day to talk about their babies. It makes my heart melt every time!

      Reply
  4. Liz says

    July 25, 2017 at 4:21 am

    Food and the ceremony are the biggest parts for me!

    Reply
    • cathynugentweddings says

      July 25, 2017 at 8:45 pm

      Amen, my friend! 🙂

      Reply

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Atlanta based Award Winning Interior and Event Designer and Home Blogger Cathy Nugent

Hi, friends! I'm Cathy, a nationally published award winning designer of spaces to gather and southern belle writer based out of a small(ish) town outside of Atlanta, Georgia. However, most people know me as the Monica Geller of my friend group – a coffee connoisseur and dog mom with a huge heart for hosting and an eye for design. The heart behind what I do is simple. I want to help you be intentional on creating spaces to gather and celebrating life's precious moments - whether that be weddings, parties, or something as simple as having loved ones in your home. Living Simply, Loving Generously, and Hosting with Heart.

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